The Problem with Forever :Book review

I just read this book a couple of weeks ago and I was totally in awe by it.The message really made me tear up a couple of times.It’s not your typical sappy story that makes you cry let’s keep that in  perspective.This story has a lot of humor within the story.You learn to quickly love the characters,this was definitely a book I didn’t want to put down ,I literally finished it within a week because it was so great.So let me give you a quick rundown of the book so you can go grab yourself a copy or run to your local library.

The Problem with forever follows the story of Mallory and Ryder which have a very traumatic childhood experience.Throughout the book you get glimpse of what the experience is and how it affects their current life.Major events happen throughout the story along with coping to move forward both characters overcome their circumstances in ways that help them grow.The plot takes place within a high school setting and moves to the past.

The biggest message in the book is the theme of forever, what forever means and how forever transform the characters go thru different meaning of what forever really means.The other theme the book hits on is the loss through the book characters are in lost of something their old self or love ones.I definitely recommend picking up this book and enjoying the storyline and the bits of humor the author adds to add a good laugh to the book.

28 things I’ve learned in 28 years

It’s officially my birthday and looking back to what 27th was like ,it was a hard year, indeed it was a long year.I year that I never saw to come the way it did many great things happened but than many things that often tested me.From my career to my personal life 27 wasn’t all it turned out to be.I continued on my projects but looking now it was a year of the big question whats next or how I’m changing.So here is the post 28 things I’ve learned in 28 years gosh I’m old:) and filled with wisdom and getting just like fine wine.

1.Happiness is truly important…..smile you can make so many people days happy just by a smile I can guarantee it’s like a domino affect once you smile to someone the next person smile and so forth

2.Take care of your self brush your teeth, go to your doctor and dentist appointments,sleep as much as you can the older we get the less sleep we sometimes can get a hold of.
3.Workout even if you hate it just work out your body will thank you later.Its important to come up with a workout routine to help combat our bad moods (trust me)

4.Money spent on traveling is money well spent!
5.Pay off your student loans as soon as you can you don’t wanna be the person paying off loans for 10years.
6.if you need to 😭 cry freakin cry and be sad(It’s okay)

7.Sometimes you need to burn some bridges to create some distance

8.Not all friendships last and thats okay ,just remember to stay true to your self and if the friendship taught you something than it did its purpose in your life.

9. forever doesn’t really exist,thing is forever nor the good nor the bad,life is forever changing and one is evolving the opposite orbit.

10.Be kind to others always, sprinkle kindness like confetti

11.Family is important,yes even if theres a big “if”

12.  When you learn to see that everyone is going thru something you learn to judge less

13. People who care will come thru no matter what the situation is…allow them to show they care.

14. Learn to say no

15.Goals are important never stop having goals,reach your goals revisit your goals and redesign your goals.

16. People will always have something to say if they do it’s because your obviously doing something right

18. Plans change and that’s okay too( in all aspect of life ,personal, work ,love, money etc.)

19.Life doesn’t always ever get better like in the movies,there are good,great time but also crappy times,but you learn to move forward( or at least thats what I’m told)

20.Never give up no matter how crappy things get never give up keep moving forward like my cousin says ” this is the part of the movie where it gets better”
21.Write people letters once in a while
22.Be organic unplug from social media once in a while.
23.Singing in your car can be pure happiness
24.A 13mile run can be what you need to feel stronger literally and figuratively
25.Listen to your body if your body doesn’t like Mc donalds chicken nuggets than don’t eat them.
26.Read for the sake of reading
27.A year closer to 30 is not the end of the world I report its not the end of the world
28 Always be grateful even when you currently hate everything about life or where its going.Or even when you feel so left out and want to scream at people.
*keep memories close to your heart because people tend to forget,pictures bring memories alive.

Big basin hike

I told my best friend let’s hike let’s do something this weekend let’s make it Epic right sounds all great and dandy.So she told me she had planned a hike for big basin national park which is located in the Santa Cruz area.She said we were doing 10miles round trip which is not bad but you know it’s pretty long.I woke up dragged myself outta bed and drove to the meeting place the ride to the place wasn’t bad until we hit the hills and I literally wanted to throw up luckily I didn’t we did the hike it took about over an hour not to complete the 10miles but more like five since the plan changed when we arrived .The hike wasn’t as steep which I liked but it was intense enough to keep me warm because the weather was freezing for a summers day.

After the hike we drove to fafala which is a chickpea based ball that is best for vegetarians a middle eastern food.Which I kept it to basic chicken 🍗 sandwich and fries .On the drive back I literally knocked out which was ice because I needed that rest after the drive.Yet when I arrived home it started pouring a storm everyone on social media was losing there collective shit like oh my god it’s raining in June bla bla.Glad it didn’t rain on the hike or the drive home but man the rain was 😜 wild.

Looking ahead in July 

So I joined another fitness challenge at work and I’ll you posted it ends august 21st which actually gives me time to actually do some fitness stuff.Recently since I’m working until June 23rd I find myself just moping around and this week especially avoiding the gym completely. I’ve also been spending a lot which I will be decreasing my purchases in july and selling a lot of my stuff as well.I will also push my self to read a book in Spanish.My blog will go spanish for the month of july so stay tune for that.All my brave diaries adventures will be in spanish, As you may have noticed I’ve been struggling to write and really focus on how I want my blog to grow for now my blog is still a work in progress but stay tune for the spanish of my brave diaries english posts will return in august and continue thruoughout the month of june. 

Still crying 

I’m still crying I partly have lost count but I’ve hit a new low.Ive made progress but I feel just like the first day or maybe even worst cause I’m constantly fighting with the calendar and myself.I don’t know how I’m suppose to really feel or how I’m suppose to be “over it”.I don’t like many things around me and god maybe mad at me for being so ungrateful for my health work and roof over my head and I’m grateful because it could be worst.But I’ll be honest I’m not happy I’m sad a couple months I felt angry and now it’s sadness in and out.The list haunts me the calendar punishes me I punish myself by not taking care of me I feel like an ugly fat troll.I’m asking myself what’s next well I ever be okay again what will make me happy how long is this low?when I look at the outside I feel left behind from my friends as there life’s seem to prosper I still feel sad and broken like a broken record.I’m happy for them but I can’t feel really happy when I’m not I’ve learned to hate holding in pee heat and working out I hate the feeling of anger and sadness .I keep telling myself nothing is forever but as I look at the calendar I can’t help and feel more torn knowing my birthday is days away and how I’d like to spend. MY 🎈 birthday is almost impossible 

One decision 

Thinking back to the day that has brought me to where I’m today  brings me all kinds of storylines and endless what ifs.You see sometimes one decision can get you where you are maybe if I would of never decided to ask the handsome guy that was a complete stranger  if he had purchased the textbook 📚 for the class maybe things would of been so different .This guy had taken my attention from the moment I saw him but if your thinking he’s the protagonist or hero of this story spoiler alert 🚨 he’s the complete opposite.We talked met became friends ,and more I got to know him and what if I would of refused to hangout or just not gone that day would it eventually happened anyways?Maybe I should of just never asked him about the textbook .But what if would of ending up talking because we had two classes it was hard not to notice we had two classes back to back.Maybe I just shouldn’t of noticed him.All these events to that time are what ifs I’d never know.However I did I went and that day changed my life I guess I didn’t know that day how my life would turn and how the dents of that day would create deeper wounds and prolonged ❤️ heart ache 😖

It happened the scar healed I 💭 thought life was on track and than the frist crisis came I didn’t understand I tried at love and for some reason the crisis where more often and that ended.i struggled but I met someone and I thought the issues of the crisis where things of the past I was in a good place than they came in and out  but they came I practiced control and I got good at being in control but I wasn’t as successful it just bought time than the end came and my heart broke like it never had before I was torn and now I cry 😭 thinking why did I make that decision that has untangled pain over time that hasn’t healed what was taken.

Bookfest

I attended the bayarea book fest last weekend I was very curious about it.Thinking I was gonna my to obtain free books from my favorite authors unpublished material etc.Yeah that didn’t happened it took place in Berkeley in the downtown area by the time we got there I was starving so we grabbed some Thai which was okay by regular standards:).We ate and walked ourselves to the 📚 book fest I was impressed that they had a big push for writers to get in bed in publishing or join a publishing company which really motivated me to peruse something in writing which I thought hmmm why not.We walked around no free unpublished copies there was a lot for sale bought a kid frida kahlo for my collection.Than after we got some free books 📚 from half book store which where used kid books not bad for free.Than before leaving Berkeley we got some gelato ice cream 🙂

Sorry I have no pictures from the festival  just food

Ps the gelato shop located in downtown Berkeley has the best rose 🌹 gelato ever